First of all, many thanks to everybody who took the time to read and reply with open heart to The Donk.
I could write now a very big reply. I feel the need to write about myself, my family, my dog, to say that I'm quite a happy and normal person, to justify why and how I started poker, how I got opening and continuing this thread instead of having fun in poker and in [life minus poker]..., and maybe somewhere in the near future I will, even if not so many will be interested.
What I want to say now, is that I discovered with your help another (the 3rd) dimension of the poker players. Most of my poker friends are recreational (home live) players, and only a few are recreational online players. They ALL know only the 1st dimension of the poker players: poker rules, basic strategy, and that's it. I also started there, but as a curious and thirsty for knowledge electronics engineer, I went further to explore the poker world, and found the second dimension of a poker player. This is the reg. Organized, selective tight aggressive, he grinds his favorite poker game every day, he grows every day. He uses HEM to analyse himself and his opponents, knows to avoid other regs and catch the fishes that get caught at his tables, knows all about reading hands. He reads interesting poker books, watches DC videos, learn and uses new tools, reads and posts lots of interesting hands on top poker forums. He knows poker is a long term bussiness, both from the learning and winning perspective. I know about these regs. Hoped to become one myself.
Let's see where we are: 1st dimension is for recreational players, 2nd dimension is for good-better-best payers. But both are analytic dimensions, based only on the game and style on playing. This is what I thought to be IT.
But in the last 3-4 month, I found the 3rd dimension, which is so powerful, that it can destroy everything from the 2nd dimension. This is the psychologically-aware poker player. This is the reg + the following attributes: self awareness, self control, the master from the master's journey in long term fulfillment, master in neuropsychology, psychological deception, manipulation and probably many others. Most important one of all, the master in self control.
Here is where I failed bad. I hurt myself so bad, in a psychological way, that I can't believe it yet. Yes, some of my actions resemble the gambler disease, but I think it's because I entered a dimension in which I have no control and no knowledge yet. Here is the problem: I know what do to and how to do it, I love to do it, I do it, but fail because I don't know to control myself. A big guy said: emotions can make you or brake you. Before making or braking, you have to be aware that you can control these emotions, to serve you in the long term. I mean, on one side we have the emotion control of live poker players. You must not laugh, not show any gesture. And that's hard, but to control yourself online, for me, is a very long journey.
But here's the good part. I believe that controlling myself can improve my poker (we are on a poker forum), but also my life. I see it as a fortunate event. One can live happily in ignorance, and never find these concept. The fact that I did, makes me wanna improve.
DO YOU think this is possible?