Jared is my Mental Game Coach. Â I'm taking notes/reviewing my first session I had with him. Â This is more of a note list than a blog entry but feel free to read through.
I'm able to play my best because I avoid opportunities that can tilt me (lack of sleep, feeling grumpy, etc.). Â Doing so artificially cuts off my weaknesses. Â In order to make sustainable consistent progress on my BEST, it comes by eliminating weaknesses continually. Â That's how you achieve your best.
An inchworm represents what making progress looks like.
Adult learning model - 4 stages of learning.Â
1st stage - unconscious incompetence. Â You don't know where you suck
2nd stage - you become conscious of it. Â Consciously incompetent, you are aware where you suck.
3rd stage - conscious competence. Â Getting good at it but you have to think to get through your problems.
4th Stage - Unconscious competence. Â You have actually learned something. Â This exists below the emotional system, in a place in the brain called Procedural Memory.
Would you say you're a better player than a few years ago? Yes, that proves what you have learned to the level of unconscious competence. Â Think of it as muscle memory for the brain. MM for things you think about. Â The stuff we talk here about the brain actually relate to the muscles as well. Â Having your brain burnt out is like going to the gym and working your muscles to the max.
Our brain works optimally for 50 mins. Â What if you train more of your knowledge into unconscious competence? You increase your capacity to play. Â Not as easy as you think. Â I work 80 hours, to get to 120 hours is a 50% increase. Â Just because you run 5miles doesn't mean you are capable of running 7.5.
I've had periods where I put a lot of hands in 1 month, gets easy to put in hands after that but when I take a vacation it all disappears. Â What happens is I haven't honed that skill set into unconscious competence.
We need pressure to push us to work hard. If I have no pressure, my energy is too low, so what I am relying on is unconscious competence. Â Freerolling what I've already mastered. Â You cannot learn anything new unless you have enough energy.
Performance Theory Model - Adult learning model would be at about the middle
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If you don't have enough energy you suck, if you are too stressed, you suck. Â For me I'm at about 70-80% stress to perform at my best. Â I need to feel slapped by the other guy to perform at my best.
My goals so far:Â
Â -More consistent work ethic.
Â -Increase hours I am playing.
Â -reduce anxiety.
Â -Reduce under/over confidence levels.
The current way I get kicked into the best mindset is not sustainable. Â It's not that it is wrong, it is just unsustainable.
We want to build off a sustainable base, what I am really good at, and go from there. Â The reason why my confidence can go to the shitter is that there is nothing there to snap me out of it (besides upswinging). Â Not stable.
I feel as if I'm not the best then I am shit. Â There isn't much of a midway for me. Â I am competitive, nothing is ever good enough from my standpoint.
There is knowledge in the experience. Â The only reason emotion stays around is because there is something to learn from it. Â
I shun and hate mistakes. Â The problem with that is I have zero tolerance for understanding why I made those mistakes.
Problem: I get very frustrated when I make a mistake.
1) Why is it logical that I feel that way? Why even make that mistake in the first place?Â
2) Have I ever made a mistake when I was learning something new and got frustrated over it?Â
Personally: Mistake happens because you did something wrong. Â I don't like to believe it's out of my control because you have to be responsible for your mistakes. Â However, there is a difference. Â Poker is a game of incomplete information. Â We're always going to make mistakes until we have enough experience to fill in the gaps, like life.
3) Does it feel like there's this mystical level of perfection that is attainable when I am playing? Yes, definitely.
******4) If you make a mistake, and you learn from it, would you say that it's worth it? OF COURSE!*********
In poker it can seem like you're losing money when you make a mistake, but the only time you can say that is if you have made the same mistakes time and time again. Â Otherwise it is an investment in my future return.
Why is it logical that you make mistakes in the first place? You didn't know. Â Think of it as going in a maze, there is just some stuff you don't know yet. Â Your intuition hasn't had a chance to grow from it.
It's like knowing how to ride a bike w/out ever having done it. Â Or riding a bike in the rain, on a freeway, in the city, etc.
So why did I make a mistake in the first place? Â Because I didn't know any better and there's no way I could've.
My Old Model: I am responsible for knowing something I couldn't have possibly known.
New Model: I am responsible for actively learning about what I have experienced so that I make it less likely I make mistakes in the future.
Old model - punishing myself. New model - optimism, learning from my mistakes, there is always progress.
In relation to the adult learning model, I have just become consciously incompetent about it. Â I realize I suck at this.Â
Review and think about every day these two statements:
I didn't know any better and there's no way I could.
I am responsible for using what I've learned from my mistakes to improve myself.
Goal is to better understand myself. What is occurring emotionally during my sessions. Â You cannot improve what you do not understand.
Blogging about experience is an awesome form of repetition. Â If it's in your head, it may be too subjective, however writing not only revisits but gives you a 3rd person perspective on it.Â