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PUA=Pick Up Artist

A little background on myself before I begin talking about how to hit on woman and what not. I, like many of you, have had trouble in the past picking up woman. I started out fast and got laid when I was 15. I thought the flood gates were to open and I would be fucking left and right. Not so, my next fuck was when I was 18 with a girl I wouldn't write home about.

Went to college and walked on to a division 2 football team. Got cut and down to 5% body fat. Every girl on that campus wanted me. It was only a 4000 person campus but still.

I didn't know how to handle it. I went from no attention to too much. My way of handling it was getting piss drunk and saying stupid shit to girls. Eventually that well dried up and I was left with my dick in my hand. The luster wore off for many reasons but thats not the point. I fell into these cycles, these dry streaks that would frustrate and anger me. I'd get a bunch of girls for a few months then suddenly it would stop, over and over and over again until I tried something a little different this year.....

Back to PUA's. I studied attraction and picking up woman in my most frustrating of times. I applied the techniques of Mystery and David D and Ross Jeffries when I could. Did they work? Yeah to a certain degree they did but something always felt a little empty. I felt fake and there was no substance to it. All I was doing was creating an illusion of somthing that wasn't me. Lets take mystery for example. He lived with his parents and didn't really have a job. He discovered doing street tricks would amaze people and eventually weaved them into his pick up routine. It works, peacocking, tricks all of it WORKS! But its just a sand castle in the end....

My favorite at the time was hitting on the "mother hen" of the group. The mother hen was the hater of the group. She is in a sense desperate and willing to lower her standards.  Shes no fun. The psychology behind it is that since she never got any attention if you gave her some she would melt in your hands. Once you got her approval then the other would follow. Shes kind of like the leader, the one people look to for guidance. Shes manipulative usually so she can make or break you...

Or you could go straight for the dime piece of the group. the psychology behind her is that she gets hit on all of the time. By the time you've decided to hit on her 20 other guys have, some have used the same pick up line. Her defenses are up, shes annoyed, you begin to look like every other aggressive ass hole. She's checked out for the evening...

The mother hen approach is a very high percentage play. It works about 90% of the time by my estimates. Going straight for the hot chick, no matter what time of the night is a low percentage play. In fact I would say its -EV all around. She has many choices so she can be picky. She knows what shes looking for and will find it. Keep in mind that when you hit on girls you want to build up confidence and momentum. Hitting on a few average girls to get the ball rolling isn't such a bad idea. When you hit on the dime first thing it may hurt your confidence a bit if you aren't used to hitting on woman. Then of course theres your merged group which is everything in between

But beyond all of these pick up tricks what is the one thing that can overcome most if not all of them? Why do you see "that guy" with such a super hot chick. You know that guy who isn't that great looking and says stupid things but his GF is too hot for him!

The generic answer is "You have to have confidence man". Well, yeah, you have to have cofidence to do anything in this world but how?

You have to be comfortable with yourself, you have to embrace yourself and your inequalities, your quirks and just go out for yourself not to get pussy. Thats when you will be supremely confident. If you go out for other people or trying to be something else how can you possibly be confident? You're trying to be something that you've never been. Like the time you tried to playing too aggro and lost a bunch of buy ins. You're a TAG at heart do what feels comfortable and build on it. The LAG side will come in time.

 If you go out every night with the intention to hit on woman and getting laid YOU WILL FAIL a large percentage of the time. I mean failing isn't necesarily bad right? You'll learn but it will take a while. You will have many a frustrating nights, some people will become gun shy and not want to hit on woman any more. Trust me, I know I've done it and came home drunk and disapointed 1000's of times.  I talked to this guy once who told me he would kill himself if there was no pussy. LOL what? I'm dead serious thats what he said. Word for word. He said because whats the point of living if theres no pussy? LOL WHAT?

No matter how many numbers you get, girls you fuck you're still you. I used to go out thinking that if I got laid more I'd be happy. I'd feel empty at the end of the night or it would be awkward in the morning. Its not going to make you a better person fucking 10 girls in a week compared to 1 girls a year.

GETTING WOMAN, MONEY, CARS, CLOTHES is a by product of your happiness with yourself. You will reflect that energy onto other people and they will become attracted to you. Don't listen to these cheesy pick up lines and tactics. Its similar to looking at someones HUD stats and saying "I want to play a 27/17 because DJ Sensei does and he's a winning player so I need to play that way. DJ fuckin Sensei didn't get those numbers that way. He looked for profitable spots and those numbers are a by product of how he successfully found  the equity. Those numbers are indications of where you can find profit in the game.

So this PUA stuff. If it gives you lots of confidence and excites you to go hit on woman then do it. DO IT! If it makes you happy and its new and fun then go for it.

But please, don't do it if you deep down inside hate yourself. If you're uncomfortable with yourself its going to shine through anyway. You can create that illusion but how long can you balance it? They will feel that negative energy and that pick up game stuff just won't work at that point. Most of these pick up guys hate themselves deep down inside. The PUA game is just an illusion to seperate them from themselves. Its the ego carrying them through it and ultimately its a sand castle. Its delicate and extremely exploitable. You're only masking the problem not solving it......

If you want to model yourself after someone look into David Deangelo. I think he's got it down somewhat. Create a life your comfortable with and the rest will come together. KasinoKrime loves David D and I can see his dreams come together as we speak.

Towards the begining of this I mentioned I tried something a little different this year. As some of you have read in this blog I was busto in Vegas and had to move back to Colorado. I had no GF anymore, no money and was living in my sisters basement. I racked up a ton of debt and my family thought I was a sick degenerate (which I am :but thats besides the point).  I decided that I would do me, focus on myself, have a good time and give off good energy. I wouldn't try to get laid I would just make new friends, thats it. How can someone else enjoy you if you can't even enjoy yourself? How can you really enjoy someone elses body if you feel bad about your own?

I don't have a graph to show for it but I've never had so many opportunities and situations arise for me in my life with woman. Its like this. I didn't have the money that I used to or my own place but I had more chances with woman than I ever had before. People started looking to me to lead the way picking up woman but they didn't get it. You don't have to run PUA game. You just have to be yourself, have fun and enjoy life and opportunities with woman, and life, will come to you.

I promise

Some good grind music to calm your poker soul:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VQGL0PCbKGk&p=4211C39E0AAE2533&playnext=1&index=18

Durrutti Column

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5bLlzGLH7wM

Discovery

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Suyjm_gi6GU

Rob Dougan

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fxofkW5iPpI

Aim-Cold Water Music

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vUMPyQnd6bI