April 12, 2011
Playing With the Hair Indicates highest satisfaction towards the person speaking but carries connotations of affection
Kissing By slightly puckering lips into a kiss, person expresses approval towards topic being discussed or person with whom they are speaking
Lip Licking Conveys approval towards topic or person speaking
Lip Biting This portrays great emotional involvement and is an invitation for further discussion
Leaning Forward Indicates interest in topic and person speaking
Opening Arms and Legs Invitation for further discussion
Putting Finger or Object in Mouth Sexual connotations towards person speaking or topic being discussed
Casually Touching Signifies empathy
Pressing Tongue Against Inside of Cheek Beginning to approve of a subject but still considering
Moving Objects Toward Oneself Represents an attempt to take the lead in a discussion
Leaning the Body Backwards Indicates a withdrawal from a topic
Throat Clearing Conveys a rejection of an argument
Rubbing Nose with a Finger Expresses rejection of a topic
Moving Objects Away From Oneself Represents withdrawal from conversation
Brushing Away Dust or Crumbs from Table Signifies closing of a discussion
3 types of people
Debbie: I don’t see how you are saving me money.
Brian: Listen to me. Hear how I am saving you money. I am discounting you 15 percent.
Debbie: I still don’t see how you are saving me money.
Only until one of them adopts the representational system of the other does the other understand.
Brian: Let me show you on this paper how I will give you a 15 percent discount.
Debbie: Great! Now I understand!
The above is an example of how different people view the world around them. I am KINESTHETIC (feeling/doing) so if you want to talk best to me, you should be saying "I feel like doing xyz.." or "I am going out, are you coming too?". There are also AUDITORY (say/hear) and VISUAL (see). When interacting with people, pay attention to which words they are using to describe how they view the world. Respond to them in this same representational system and you will see vastly different results.
If you are in conversation but wish to immediately stop, try these three techniques:
1.) Change your physiology. You may want to physically create some space, break your eye contact or raise your eyebrows. These are subtle ways to kindly end conversation. If you want to be more forceful, turn your back to them.
2.) Change your sound. Alter your voice intonation or volume. Speak louder or softer, higher or lower or even resort to silence.
3.) Change your word choice. This is when you need most to practice the word so many of us are often afraid to use: “No.” You can lighten this word with a: “No, thankyou,” but even that one seems hard to use at times.
These are my newest notes from Sam Chauhans book, 'Minds Power Unleashed', I am currently at Chapter Eleven: To See or Not to See. In other news its Songkran Festival, which although is a religious festival at heart, the reality is its just a big party, so tomorrow its time for water fight! I cant go out of my hosue with anything electrical or anything valuable (like my degree certificate) so I cant scan my documents yet, I will wait til after songkran festival is well over so that they dont get ruined by the inevitable torrents of water that will get chucked all over me!
I recently discovered about the Primal Blueprint thanks to this thread. Which led me to watch the movie Fat Head, check it out http://www.hulu.com/watch/196879/fat-head +http://www.fathead-movie.com/ . Which led me to cutting carbs as much as possible and eating more protein (bacon! :P ) and I think it is working.
Here is a pic of me before learning about this thread..